Freedom. Relationship structures. Commitment.
A musing that came through sips of rose and mint tea as they mingled around in the steam:
One part rose: invite her fragrance in. Allow her to sooth as she moves the feminine within. (remove after steeping. Prolonged time in water releases her oils that are overwhelming for our gut)
One part wild mint: or any mint you can find. Allow her to cool and awaken, as she tunes in to the masculine in your heart.
Relationship structures are irrelevant. What matters is that we care for ourselves and others, just as the roots and branches do.
We arrive here. Genetic composition and ancestral lines, strung before our body, mind, energy start to take all that is around us in. We bud through the undercurrents and interactions of family, culture, colonization, the politics of the structural world humans have created and are in. And we flower, synthesizing all the ideas and rules presented to us to be safe, admirable, sound, correct, with the uniqueness that lies within.
And we relate
To others. Within structures known or discovered. Given an opportunity to cherish the freedom of our being and freedom of others. There is a commitment, regardless of the nature of relationship structure we choose to be IN. If in the relational world, we hold this at the center, truly, then how could we partake in squashing the freedom of another in this web we are in?
That freedom is actually the seed within our essence. And what is that word that gets tossed around a lot - essence? It's not static - as in we finally find what that nectar is at our core, we puncture the surface with courage and hold on to it, showing it loudly to the world - THIS is who I am.
Our essence is comprised of remembrance. Of many moments strung together, weaving in, out, and around the flickers of life we are actively in. it's in the depth of learning through the grief of our traumas. In the celebrations of life when we dare to experience something new. It's in sharing, in listening, in really being with another as they share themselves - it’s in the compassion that lives in those moments and in how we see ourselves in it too.
Choose to be IN monogamy. Taught as the sacred union, aspired to transcend us closer to god. Yes, commit to being in a journey of depth with another - hold freedom at the center and you've actively taken steps to dismantle the patriarchal pyramid monogamy has been trapped in.
Non monogamy is your vehicle of expansion? Go THERE. Enter the web this way. Find the way you show up differently and the same, with every human you connect. Be heart, be love, be authentic care, and remember to swim through the deep here too.
Life is fluid, just as water, and in how she merges the wisdom of these medicinal plants in my cup.
So whatever you choose, know that you get to choose and then choose again, every moment. And if for a moment you thought, well then….where is the commitment?
The commitment is to choose
It’s not in the definition of the “relational structure” we are in. it's in being you and meeting others, in freedom, as they are too.
Much Love,
Madeleine Michal